Have you ever said something you wish you could take back?
Maybe you were upset with your spouse. Maybe your co-worker said something to bother you. Or something didn’t go as planned and you lost it and said something you don’t mean, something that hurt the person on the receiving end—something God wasn’t pleased with.
I have a said a handful of things over the years that I wish I could take back. After the words penetrate my mind and escape my mouth, I am left with regrets that plague my mind because I failed to think about what I said before I said it.
Think before you speak.
Our tongue can be tough to control. Often we feel the need to speak to remove the uncomfortable feeling of silence; we speak to speak our mind our we speak out of frustration and anger.
However, Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”. Which simply means, let’s think about what we will say and how we will say it before we respond, especially when we are in “our feelings”.
Without God’s help, inevitably, none of us can speak with love, grace and kindness, especially when we are on edge. However, when we walk forward in faith, God transforms our heart as only he can. He has the power through his spirit to align our thought’s, actions and words with his.
Let His spirit guide us.
His spirit should be our guiding force to speak in grace and the beauty of his holiness. Remember, the Holy Spirit is the power of God at work in our lives. This power allows us to be led by the spirit of God (Romans 8:14). It won’t stop us from saying hurtful and condescending things. However, we must be open and willing to let God work on us and through us, through his spirit.
The holy spirit also convicts our conscience and helps us to reflect on our wrong and produces Godly fruits in us—love, joy, peace, kindness, and faithfulness.
So the next time you feel compelled to let your tongue loose, pray for the Holy Spirit to provide guidance and God’s direction over your life. When you pray for guidance also pray for discernment and the right things to say. Our transformation in Him is accomplished through the renewing of our mind.
Regardless of what we have said and how much it may hurt someone, when we choose to walk with God and experience his transformation, we begin to embody the fruits of the spirit and live an exemplary life. It will be painful but let God do the work so he can be glorified.
Lord, I want to let your light shine through me. Thank you for your guidance and your grace. Help the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight, Oh Lord, my strength and redeemer.